It only works within a relationship where some kind of connection and attunement is present. Though as we know connecting with our children and young people can be challenging as they often reject our efforts to connect. So sometimes to help a child or young person feel safer to connect, it might help to start by developing a connection in a way that feels tolerable to you both.
Developing or repairing a connection can start at a distance and move in over time as attunement and trust grows. Here are some ideas for both, connecting from a distance and tolerable nurture.
Connecting from a distance for me is letting them know that you are holding them in mind even if you are not with them.
Tolerable Nurture offers reconnection in a manageable way, as it can often be daunting to re-connect with a child who has been violent or rejecting to them. You can show them that you hold them in mind even if you are in a different room.
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